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Ladies and Gentleman - KAI NAKA-JAMES!

Kai Naka-James
Kai Naka-James

Can you believe it, we had a baby!

A real, actual biological baby!

Here’s the whole story.

Once upon a time, this little boy in Iowa . . .
Josh age 5

Yep, that’s me at age five, long before the kickboxing and tattoos would come to play . . . anyway, that little boy . . .

And this little girl in Osaka . . .

Yep, that’s the Samurai Lady as a wee little toddler, although you can see she commands attention and respect, even back then.

Okay, so those two kids . . .

Would both grow up and, many years later, find their way to New York City, would meet and dig each other most groovy . .
Josh & Tomoko

Which would lead to THIS . . .

Okay, for those of you with bad eyesight, that’s nothing dirty, it’s a sonogram of our son at 20 weeks. Okay? Back to the narrative . . .

And months after that, we would have . . .
Mother and Son

Kai Tate Naka-James
Born Friday, September 14th at 9:40 PM
7 lbs, 4 ounces.

He arrived a day early, so you know he’s our kid, heh-heh. It was a long process, lemme tell ya. Actually, I don’t wanna relive it at the moment, so I ain’t telling ya, we came out healthy and we’re past that, so let’s go to the good stuff . . .

Kai & Mama
As you can see, Kai got his Mother’s looks and thank the Buddha for that.

He’s got her nose, cheeks, eyes and most importantly, her dimples, heh-heh. Girls be in trouble when this little man comes of age, I’m telling ya . . .

As far as Daddy is concerned, it looks like he’s got a touch of my color to his eyes and hair, we have the same hands and toes, I kid you not, and . . .

. . . it seems we both yowl in the exact same way when we make a doody, who’d a thunk it?

We’re very happy and tired and pleased and all the things folks always say after a beautiful baby is born . . . I’d also add I’m super-pleased because a baby is proof-positive I’ve actually had sex, at least once!

Shit, I’m supposed to say more grown up things now that I’m, ahem, a parent. Wait, did I say shit? I meant doody! Damn, this parenting thing is gonna be an adjustment. Did I say Damn?


For inquiring minds . . . Kai is Japanese for “ocean” and it seemed to really fit him in a way most cool.

He recognizes our voices and smiles a whole lot, when he’s not eating or sleeping.

And he kicks! He’s gonna be breaking boards before you know it!

There will be regular baby bloggings in between essays on writing and political rantings, for the parents and family overseas in Japan and those overland in Iowa, check in every Friday for new pictures and whatnot.

if that means this blog has jumped the shark, I don’t care, it ain’t all about me anymore, if it ever was . . . Kai rocks most awesome, I’m telling ya . . .

Hey, have you heard the news? I have a son!

44 Responses to “ Ladies and Gentleman - KAI NAKA-JAMES!”

  1. Tony Says:


    Tony Jr. just turned one, and it has been the best year of my life. (Who needs sleep)

  2. Christina Says:

    Congratulations! I wondered why your blog went silent for a bit… for good reason!!

  3. freeman Says:

    Congrats! Beautiful baby!

  4. Katie Says:

    Wow! He’s gorgeous — and what a great name. Glad you’re all well.

  5. Stacy Says:

    Congrats Brother!
    It’s everything I told you it would be……just wait.

    -Proud uncle

  6. Alan Says:

    Wow! Congratulations, Joshua.

  7. Andrew Bellware Says:

    OK, you’ve got me all weepy now!

  8. wolfie Says:

    oh wow. beautiful. beautiful. beautiful. congrats. blessings.
    but really, play-man …….
    MORE MATERIAL! and when he’s 15 YOU’LL BE HIS MATERIAL! so pace yourself, daddy-o.
    and pamper mama! she’ll appreciate it.

  9. Constance Says:

    Hot (Naked Truth) Damn!

    He’s already a hottie!
    (And y’know Euraisians make the cutest lil’ babies and tots! tee hee…;) )

    Absolutely GORGEOUS - all three of you!

    THIS is the moment…
    truly joyful news, Josh! Made my day! “Congratulations” hardly covers it, but…congratulations! Let the fun begin!

    - Love,

  10. Lia Yang Says:

    That is awesome news! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!

  11. Sasha K Says:

    Congrats to both of you!!! He’s beautiful! Enjoy! :)

    Sasha K

  12. Mystery Man Says:

    Awesome! Congratulations, man!

    About a month ago, friends had a baby and made me see hold the baby. (They’re trying to convince me that I want to settle down.) The baby was, like, 8 hours old. I had never held anything that young. It twitched or something so I quickly gave it back.

    BTW - I have that same shirt. Scratchy, isn’t it? But it makes a guy look good and we therefore, tolerate it.

    I’m quite happy for you.


  13. stefanie Says:

    He does look like Samurai Lady, although I see you a bit in the profile.
    So happy. As I said before, this is so wonderful for two wonderful people.

  14. Kimmy Says:

    Oh my God!!! Thank you so much for including me in your wonderful news. He is beautiful and looks like both of you. You are about to embark on the most amazing experience of your life. Congrats and much love to both of you.


  15. Fun Joel Says:

    Awesome, dude! Congrats!

    There is no greater miracle in the world, as far as I am concerned, than the way two people can join and somehow create a third. And you will be blessed soon enough to hear what I consider the absolute greatest sound in the world — the laughter of children.

    As my people like to say: Mazel tov!

  16. Tony Perry Says:

    Fantastic news man! Congrats!

    Clearly you are a house of love!

  17. RK Says:

    Congratulations to both of you.

  18. RK Says:

    Actually to the three of you!

  19. Adam Says:


  20. susan scudder Says:

    He’s beautiful, perfect and beautiful. You are so blessed, all three of you. Having children, loving them and caring for them is the most creative thing anyone can ever do. My advice is to savor and enjoy every single moment and laugh a lot. When things get too frustrating, remember that now you have the possibility of grandchildren in your future and you can just simply dote on them. (Ask your parents, they’ll understand what I mean.) Again, Kai is soooo beautiful.

  21. Rie Says:

    Tomo chan, Josh, omedeto~~!!! and Kai chan, welcome to the world! He is so beautiful!! I can’t wait to see him in person! and tomo chan, otsukaresama!

  22. Ross Says:

    Wow. Not only do we get to see Kai, we see a version of Josh with hair!


  23. Katie B Says:

    As I said before. Congrats to both of you Josh! My new cousin is so beautiful. Words can not describe my joy & happiness for both of you. Babies are proof that there is at least one thing in this world that makes sense & is beautiful & pure. Even if the rest of life doesn’t & isn’t. Again congats & I can’t wait to meet him the next time you come back to the sticks.
    Katie :o)

  24. Ian Mackenzie Says:

    Congratulations Joshua!

  25. Elizabeth Ropp Says:

    This is great, Josh! I can’t wait to forward the blog on to my mom and let her know that we’re aunties!!!!

    Can you e-mail me your physical address so I can send you something?

    Lots of love to all of you. Namaskar

  26. R Pauley Says:

    josh and tomoko!!!!

    a most glorious welcome to mr kai naka-james!!!!!
    i am weeping a “kai” of tears right now for your joy….
    it is the most powerful thing that we humans are able to accomplish and you are about to embark on the most rewarding journey of your life. with holland attending college for the first year, i know of what i speak.
    my heart and soul are bursting open!

    r pauley

  27. Journey Says:

    Oh my goodness, oh my goodness!!! What a sweetie!!! Congratulations!

  28. Mark Says:

    Congratulations man! Enjoy the next few weeks, especially. Take time to receive friends, let people cook for you, etc. This sort of concentrated time with just the three of you won’t last forever, so make every moment count. All the best from our family to yours and looking forward to meeting the little dude!

  29. stelianie Says:

    Well done. Healthy, happy, don’t need more than that. o glad for you:)

  30. James Says:

    Congratulations, Joshua!

  31. Laura Says:

    :) I’ve already sent my best wishes to you, but I decided to do it again. :) Your family is fabulous. Congrats.

  32. Monica Russell Says:

    He is absolutely beautiful. Ya got me bawlin’ readin’ this. I’m so happy for you guys! A blessing for Kai:
    I wish him all the happiness he can handle.

    much love,

  33. Mary Jane Sander Says:

    What a wonderful surprise - enjoy him while he’s young - they grow up so fast -

    Mary Jane

  34. samantha jones Says:

    Oh blessings on your whole wonderful family!what a gorgeous baby- and the parents dont look so bad either! We’re all so happy for you two!



    ps- where can i get one of those?

  35. Laura V. Says:

    Wow guys. What a good looking little man! So excited for you! Lots of love. :)

  36. Chuck Says:

    I sure do love it when you tell a story. Gee Whiz. Hey, I said it before, and I’ll say it again, I’m very proud of both of you and honored to be a part in your lives. What a special day that was when I first saw Kai. I’ll never forget it. Thanks guys.


  37. Anita Hollander Says:

    Kai has extremely good focus.
    I’m impressed.
    And I think he has BOTH his parents’ good looks, in fact.
    Love to you all, and to all at least one good night,

  38. kumi Says:

    he looks just like you guys! beautiful baby

  39. joanne desantis Says:

    Congrats, so happy for all of you!

  40. Carla Tassara Says:

    Thank you so much for the news! You are truly blessed! That’s one kick-ass, stunning family you got there Josh, congratulations to all of you!

  41. Mark Says:

    He’s beautiful Josh! Congrats guys!

  42. Steve Deighan Says:

    Wow! Adulthood! Imagine! Allow me to add my (very) belated congrats! Better things await.

  43. Todd Says:

    “before the kickboxing and tattoos would come to play . . .” wow this guy must be a badass. (scrolls down and sees pic) Nope.

  44. Joshua James Says:


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